Love? Marriage? Commitments?

We always hear people say, "Don't leave me. I love you. I cannot live without you!" To me, and some other people whom I talked to about this issue, they say it's just crap.

Puppy lovers only have 2 things in mind. First is lust. Lust or desire of having someone to accompany them. Desire and mere sense of belonging. The end. In this aspect, they tend to hog around each other, mush around and do many cute things together. TOGETHER. That's all they want. They have nothing to worry.

Now, on the second aspect which I believe this is very much healthier than Lust, is mental support. This would be obvious when one says, "I seriously need you now. Where the fuck are you???!!!" This is usually uttered by the girl to the boy. Pardon me for not using the term woman and man, because it's puppy love, remember? It is so simple for them both. This cute puppy couples. Their lives are mainly about their lives. Their worlds. Their co-joined world. Their simple society.

This time, they somehow believe the boy cannot show their sadness or ask their "girlfriends" to comfort them. Just like the men depicted in the story, "Looking for a Rain God". The traditional culture and community somehow... sets a status quo which until now: female humans being the weak ones and always break down and the male humans being the strong ones and always give mental support to their families and cannot break down in front of them. If this statquo (I portmanteau status quo, mind you) has been changed. What people think is going to be, "Wow. This lady is a very strong woman. Meh, this guy is such a weak man, shame on him!"

Here comes the interesting part of my post. Marriage (let's not talk about this yet), or I should make an antonym out of puppy lovers - Adult lovers, or true lovers. Matured lovers. They have many things in mind that Lust and Mental Support alone will never help to sustain their relationships. Things would get very hard for them. Complex community in complex environment. Now, the psychology of adult lovers are far more interesting than that of puppy lovers.

They would look on more than those two aspects, namely: Family background, wealth, academic qualification and the list goes on. Well just refer to the picture and you will understand what I mean. Mental support isn't so very essential anymore. Religious afflictions too. This just shows that when it comes to marriage (and adult lovers, of course), it is material over mind and mind over matter. Things change. When they fail to sustain this relation, say the family goes bankrupt or what not, some are lucky enough to have their wives giving a lot of mental support to them but there are a lot of them just utter the magic word and poof! Everything is gone. Divorce.

There are cases where these couples can be saved but there are more cases where these couples cannot be saved from the desire to divorce. Well, if such is the case, why bother committing themselves into marriages at the first place? Life isn't all beds of roses, I would say. So much to say for semper fidelis?

Supplicanti parce, Deus.