One day (last week) my friend asked us (the hostel gang) a simple question which gave a small bout of debate but it does worth the time talking about it:
Do you...
i) Eat to live or
ii) Live to eat?
Well you see here, I have asked about let's see... 5 of my friends here and only one answered what I answered - Live to eat.
I am just thinking of what I read from Have A Little Faith by Mitch Albom (that book made me cry like a baby in the end of the story when the rabbi died) last month; "Do you know why when a baby is born, he grasps his hands like this? Because he wants to grab everything in the world. Do you know why when an old man dies, he loses his grip and opens his hands like this? That's because he knows that he could not take everything with him from the world when he dies." That line struck me deep and it also struck many people when I shared it with.
This have shown a few common psychological facts that I have discovered due to that question.
EAT TO LIVE:
1. Worry more that doing it right
2. Grateful but not that much
3. Bound by many insecurities
4. Think too much of uncertainty
5. Live like they're dying
LIVE TO EAT:
1. Just do it (worrying is later)
2. Grateful and simply thankful of what they have - extra things are unnecessary
3. Feels home in almost any possible place
4. What may be, may be/Let bygone be bygone
5. Happy-go-lucky/live like there's no tomorrow/carpe diem
Kyrie eleison; Supplicanti parce, Deus.
Disclaimer:
Do not read on one section and conclude the other as total opposite. This is not something like Biology for you to compare Mitosis and Meiosis or Economics in comparing Capitalism and Socialism market structures. This is life.
Monday, July 25, 2011
Tuesday, July 12, 2011
Hey cutie :)
OK, I know I sound profoundly gay calling a guy cutie... Who cares.
Anyway, there was a few weeks ago that I noticed this quite cute guy coming into my fellow hostel block-mate's room and recently I noticed he smiles at me. One part of me says "He's just being friendly, (because I am friends with his friend - my fellow hostel block-mate)," while the other part says, "Nice. Now I can talk to him." Whatever it shall be, it shall be. So, I am going to talk to him one day when I see him anywhere alone.
Kyrie eleison; Supplicanti parce, Deus.
PS: You do know I am more to the one-to-one guy, don't you? Here, psychoanalysis works best!
Anyway, there was a few weeks ago that I noticed this quite cute guy coming into my fellow hostel block-mate's room and recently I noticed he smiles at me. One part of me says "He's just being friendly, (because I am friends with his friend - my fellow hostel block-mate)," while the other part says, "Nice. Now I can talk to him." Whatever it shall be, it shall be. So, I am going to talk to him one day when I see him anywhere alone.
Kyrie eleison; Supplicanti parce, Deus.
PS: You do know I am more to the one-to-one guy, don't you? Here, psychoanalysis works best!
Sunday, July 10, 2011
BERSIH vs PATRIOT ???
Can someone please tell me why are they going against each other? BERSIH demands their voice be heard. BERSIH is willing to die for Malaysia. BERSIH wants a fairer government. BERSIH wants a better Malaysia.
But... Isn't PATRIOT having the similar motives too? Why are they going against each other? And... If BERSIH was an illegal assembly, shouldn't PATRIOT be too? These are the things that I don't quite understand.
Frankly, I really find it ironic for these 2 to be rivals. Well, I would say that the whole idea of the rally WAS of good intentions but things got worse as they couldn't go into the Merdeka Stadium which Najib did try to appeal for them to have their demonstration held there. There are too many jargons in this incident that I could not believe either sides. Be it on our PM, BERSIH or even PATRIOT.
However yesterday was enough to show that WE ARE WILLING TO DIE FOR OUR OWN COUNTRY. That was the moral of the story. Less any forms of demonstrations, I notice right now, we are becoming more patriotic and sentimental towards our beloved country. Could I say now that the 1Malaysia concept is being effective? I hope so.
As a matter of fact, I do sought high upon both of these teams (I don't care if they're rivals) because they have shown to us the true spirit of fellow Malaysians. Now this is what UNITY is all about, don't you think?
Kyrie eleison; Supplicanti parce, Deus.
But... Isn't PATRIOT having the similar motives too? Why are they going against each other? And... If BERSIH was an illegal assembly, shouldn't PATRIOT be too? These are the things that I don't quite understand.
Frankly, I really find it ironic for these 2 to be rivals. Well, I would say that the whole idea of the rally WAS of good intentions but things got worse as they couldn't go into the Merdeka Stadium which Najib did try to appeal for them to have their demonstration held there. There are too many jargons in this incident that I could not believe either sides. Be it on our PM, BERSIH or even PATRIOT.
However yesterday was enough to show that WE ARE WILLING TO DIE FOR OUR OWN COUNTRY. That was the moral of the story. Less any forms of demonstrations, I notice right now, we are becoming more patriotic and sentimental towards our beloved country. Could I say now that the 1Malaysia concept is being effective? I hope so.
As a matter of fact, I do sought high upon both of these teams (I don't care if they're rivals) because they have shown to us the true spirit of fellow Malaysians. Now this is what UNITY is all about, don't you think?
Kyrie eleison; Supplicanti parce, Deus.
Saturday, July 2, 2011
Of Incompetency and Justification
2: inadequate to or unsuitable for a particular purpose
Folks, that is the definition from Merriam Webster Online dictionary of the key word I am about to talk about.
I have recently seen a person who feels (I think I should say... appears to be) incompetent with me and the reason is rather obvious. It (I wish not to reveal the gender here) somehow feels there is a necessity for it to be better than me, or else, on par with me. Now, let me tell you what I have been through the past few years of my short life on Earth; I was more or less like this person depicted in this post and one day my school counsellor comes to me (instead of me going to him) and he requested for an appointment with me because he could somehow see that my psychological behavior is really unfit to being a positive thinker. What he did was to listen to me attentively with all my problems and then he advised me these sentences which I would never forget although time may stop:
"Change I MUST into I TRY," and
"One mountain is always higher than the one that we see here."
And those 2 sentences had changed my perspective about competency altogether. Then, it came to this point where I think,
"Well, at first I thought I was jealous of you for getting such good results all the time and me, only an average Joe but, hey. I don't attend tuitions, unlike you. I am far more active compared to you. I know more general things compared to you. I could surely speak better than you. I could find more things I could do more than you could. AND I BELIEVE YOU TOO, COULD DO A LOT OF THINGS I AM NOT CAPABLE OF. So, I don't have to envy you. I respect you. We trade knowledge instead. That's better, don't you think?"
Let's get back to this main topic. As I was saying earlier, this person who feels incompetent with me MUST be knocked on its head to let it know that I don't give an atom of care about your sunken result. So, spare your tendons and energy to keep turning back to see if I am seeing your sunken results, whatever it may be. Your folio or test results because I am not bothered a single bit.
Somehow, I now have a theory: Wherever new places I go, I must make a justification (or rather a warning) to them that I am not bothered about other people's results and I am not ever interested to compete anymore. I don't wanna end up like who I used to be last time. I am who I am now that you all see today. No more petty depressions for no reasons.
I might sound bitter in this post, I apologize for that because I really am angry about this person and deep inside me, pitying it for having such mindset which would really ruin your mental health. I know I should just confront this person, but like I've said in Tumblr, "I'll give that person one more chance..." hence I will.
To you, if you're reading. Please. Stop whatever you're doing. You might think it's funny, but I totally despise of it wholeheartedly. Thanks.
Kyrie eleison; Supplicanti parce, Deus.
Folks, that is the definition from Merriam Webster Online dictionary of the key word I am about to talk about.
I have recently seen a person who feels (I think I should say... appears to be) incompetent with me and the reason is rather obvious. It (I wish not to reveal the gender here) somehow feels there is a necessity for it to be better than me, or else, on par with me. Now, let me tell you what I have been through the past few years of my short life on Earth; I was more or less like this person depicted in this post and one day my school counsellor comes to me (instead of me going to him) and he requested for an appointment with me because he could somehow see that my psychological behavior is really unfit to being a positive thinker. What he did was to listen to me attentively with all my problems and then he advised me these sentences which I would never forget although time may stop:
"Change I MUST into I TRY," and
"One mountain is always higher than the one that we see here."
And those 2 sentences had changed my perspective about competency altogether. Then, it came to this point where I think,
"Well, at first I thought I was jealous of you for getting such good results all the time and me, only an average Joe but, hey. I don't attend tuitions, unlike you. I am far more active compared to you. I know more general things compared to you. I could surely speak better than you. I could find more things I could do more than you could. AND I BELIEVE YOU TOO, COULD DO A LOT OF THINGS I AM NOT CAPABLE OF. So, I don't have to envy you. I respect you. We trade knowledge instead. That's better, don't you think?"
Let's get back to this main topic. As I was saying earlier, this person who feels incompetent with me MUST be knocked on its head to let it know that I don't give an atom of care about your sunken result. So, spare your tendons and energy to keep turning back to see if I am seeing your sunken results, whatever it may be. Your folio or test results because I am not bothered a single bit.
Somehow, I now have a theory: Wherever new places I go, I must make a justification (or rather a warning) to them that I am not bothered about other people's results and I am not ever interested to compete anymore. I don't wanna end up like who I used to be last time. I am who I am now that you all see today. No more petty depressions for no reasons.
I might sound bitter in this post, I apologize for that because I really am angry about this person and deep inside me, pitying it for having such mindset which would really ruin your mental health. I know I should just confront this person, but like I've said in Tumblr, "I'll give that person one more chance..." hence I will.
To you, if you're reading. Please. Stop whatever you're doing. You might think it's funny, but I totally despise of it wholeheartedly. Thanks.
Kyrie eleison; Supplicanti parce, Deus.
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